We as North Americans love our independence. We really love it. We say things like: “I got to be me.”, “I did it my way.”, “I can do it on my own.” and “I don’t need anybody to tell me what it’s all about.”

We think and we have been taught that happiness is the result of independence.  We think that if we are financially independent we will be happy. We think that if we are relationally independent we will be happy.  We think that if we are independent in every way then we will be happy.

And yet, we have more unhappy people in our world than ever before and the suicide rate continues to go up. Why? Because that’s not the answer. The truth is: happiness does not come from being independent, isolated, living your life with all the barriers up and all the masks and keeping people at an arm’s distance. That’s not the way to be happy.

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ways to practice patience

We live in a noisy world. Silence is arguably the most challenging, most counter-cultural and least practiced spiritual discipline. Even a silent prayer or a few minutes of quiet reflection during a worship service can make people uncomfortable.  Finding silence, i.e. stilling our soul, is hard work. Practicing silence will interrupt your normal rhythm and others may misinterpret your silence.

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If you are anything like me, practicing the discipline of silence is difficult and I usually resist it at all costs.  Dallas Willard has called silence and solitude the two most radical disciplines in the Christian life. Henri Nouwen said “without solitude it is almost impossible to live a spiritual life.” Pete Scazzero states that “If solitude is the practice of being absent to people and things to attend to God, silence is the practice of quieting every inner and outer voice to attend to Him.”

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A time for everything

March 24, 2015 — 8 Comments

A time for everything

Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that “there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens …”  The rest of the passage lists things that there is a time and a season for.  Things like:

  • a time to weep and a time to laugh.
  • a time to mourn and a time to dance.
  • a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them.
  • a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. 
  • a time to keep and a time to throw away. 
  • a time to tear and a time to mend.
  • a time to be silent and a time to speak.

I would add my own item to this list: A time to blog and a time to stop blogging.

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I’ll be back!

March 23, 2015 — Leave a comment

I will be back

New content is coming soon!

On August 8th, 2007 I entered this vast world called blogging. I had just come back from a 3 month forced sabbatical (i.e. medical leave) and I knew that I had a big journey ahead of me (and I still do!) I started this blog as an outlet to help me process everything that I was learning.

But all good things must come to an end.

I have decided to take an indefinite break from blogging.

This decision didn’t come easily but I recognize that I have lost some of my passion for blogging and it has become more of a chore than a joy. Also, I would like to invest my time in other things right now.  I haven’t been reading as much lately and I would like to invest more time into that.  Also, there is a lot of exciting things happening at the church that I am the pastor of and I want to be able to give my full attention there.

I also won’t be participating in some of my social networks regularly anymore (i.e. Twitter, StumbleUpon and Triberr).  I will be staying active on Facebook though.

I have thoroughly enjoyed this experience.  I have met some great people along the way and I am very appreciative of every one who has taken the time to read and comment.  Thank-you!

life courses

There are four basic courses by which we can live.  These may not be planned but they will be followed regardless.  Every life follows a set of rules, a default of ideals that may have been caught more than taught.  We have to look at each of these individually and intentionally choose our route.  This one choice will alter your future once and for all and opting out will default you to one of the first three.

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