We as North Americans love our independence. We really love it. We say things like: “I got to be me.”, “I did it my way.”, “I can do it on my own.” and “I don’t need anybody to tell me what it’s all about.”
We think and we have been taught that happiness is the result of independence. We think that if we are financially independent we will be happy. We think that if we are relationally independent we will be happy. We think that if we are independent in every way then we will be happy.
And yet, we have more unhappy people in our world than ever before and the suicide rate continues to go up. Why? Because that’s not the answer. The truth is: happiness does not come from being independent, isolated, living your life with all the barriers up and all the masks and keeping people at an arm’s distance. That’s not the way to be happy.