4 practical ways to demonstrate humility in relationships

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True humility is not using our status or our position in life to “lord” it over others to get what we want. True humility is putting those things aside and allowing ourselves to reach out to others in their time of need.

4 practical ways to demonstrate humility in relationships

1. Accept advice from others.

When was the last time you asked for directions when you got lost? Men have an especially hard time asking for help because they think it indicates personal weakness. They don’t want to look stupid. Unfortunately, to not ask advice from others signals another personal weakness — namely pride.

2  Admit when you’re wrong.

Humble people know when they’ve hurt someone and they admit it. They take responsibility for their actions, especially in conflict situations.

3. Own your wrong and the hurt it has caused, even if it’s unintentional.

A husband may mindlessly forget an important anniversary, but that doesn’t excuse the hurt, and a wise man owns up to it. A wife might accidentally leak something to a girlfriend that her husband wished kept confidential. A humble wife confesses the slip.

Some people think if they weren’t intentionally mean or forgetful, they shouldn’t have to admit fault. Such thinking would allow us to go through life with reckless abandon leaving many in our wake.

4. Don’t gloat or criticize when you’re right.

Few of us like a know-it-all, and fewer like a know-it-all who’s right. A TV show that I watch occasionally is “House.” This show makes a great medical drama but none of us wish for similar arrogance in a friend.

Rather than gloat like House, a sign of humility is to use a “one-down” statement. Compare “Hey, there’s the restaurant. I’m glad we made it” with “Well, would you look at that! I told you it was on Hunter Drive!”

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Which of these do you struggle with the most?

18 Comments

  • Chris Gagner says:

    Isn’t it crazy how our human nature fights against these 4 simple concepts. We think we know best… We’re to prideful to say, “I’m sorry.. will you forgive me?” We show off our accomplishments and try to tell everyone else how we would do things.

    Reading this makes it sound so easy.. I just have to do 4 things, but it reality, these 4 things are very hard to handle.

  • William Amis says:

    Kevin, your just amazing with bringing this to our attention. We loose track of just remaining transparent and allow ourselves to truly serve others.

    I love this article so much that it reaches out for us to do more for others and leave ourselves out of the equation. Hey, what if you knew that the more you give of yourself the more blessing you will receive. Well, now you know so just do something on your promptings for others.

    Kevin, you have been a huge empowering figure in our industry and you truly refresh others. Thank you for this share and I will keep my eyes open for the next.

  • Hi Kevin. All I can say is ouch, ouch, ouch, and ouch! You’ve listed four things that can be the absolute hardest to do. I used to be terrible at them, but hopefully I’ve improved with age. Thanks for reminding me of these things. To be humble is to be teachable, and it’s hard to learn from others when we’ve got our back up. Thanks for sharing.

    All the best,
    Leslie

  • tcavey says:

    Simple yet so hard to do at times! Goes against our human nature. Our flesh really is weak.

  • Peter says:

    I had been searching for an article about this topic for a while, when I found your blog. There are some really cool and useful advices in your posts. I know that there are a lot of personal development blogs on the net, but yours is really cool because it could be understood by every people, I think. It doesn’t want to be magnificent, it gives just clear and helpful advices to develop our personal skills. And that’s what people need, I think.

  • This is the true kind of Christian message that needs to be preached and lived daily in all our lives. Great inspiration and a reminder of what’s important. Thanks for this post.

  • episkopos says:

    Its amazing how four simple steps can be so difficult to do, but if we say that we are a christian being led by the Word then we would open our eyes to see that Christs humility brought about our very salvation. I cant speak for all but being independent I used to struggle with being able to submit in a relationship. But humility has taught me, sometimes the hard way, how to be a servant and how to learn and listen to another. James 4:6 says ‘But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble’. Your pride will cause you to lose the relationship you have, whereas the harder option humility will bring undeserved, unearned, unqualified blessings, help and favour your way. God bless you. http://www.daghewardmills.org

    • Yes, 4 very simple steps that are very difficult to do but thankfully we don’t have to do them on our own. We have the empowering of the Holy Spirit to to help us.

  • Omotoso Adeyemi says:

    This is a virtue that is so close but very far. Abundant yet scarce. Essential but trivially handled.

  • online relationship advice says:

    It really pays to be humble. It just doesn’t make you a better person it also gives you a peace of mind.

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