True humility is not using our status or our position in life to “lord” it over others to get what we want. True humility is putting those things aside and allowing ourselves to reach out to others in their time of need.
4 practical ways to demonstrate humility in relationships
1. Accept advice from others.
When was the last time you asked for directions when you got lost? Men have an especially hard time asking for help because they think it indicates personal weakness. They don’t want to look stupid. Unfortunately, to not ask advice from others signals another personal weakness — namely pride.
2 Admit when you’re wrong.
Humble people know when they’ve hurt someone and they admit it. They take responsibility for their actions, especially in conflict situations.
3. Own your wrong and the hurt it has caused, even if it’s unintentional.
A husband may mindlessly forget an important anniversary, but that doesn’t excuse the hurt, and a wise man owns up to it. A wife might accidentally leak something to a girlfriend that her husband wished kept confidential. A humble wife confesses the slip.
Some people think if they weren’t intentionally mean or forgetful, they shouldn’t have to admit fault. Such thinking would allow us to go through life with reckless abandon leaving many in our wake.
4. Don’t gloat or criticize when you’re right.
Few of us like a know-it-all, and fewer like a know-it-all who’s right. A TV show that I watch occasionally is “House.” This show makes a great medical drama but none of us wish for similar arrogance in a friend.
Rather than gloat like House, a sign of humility is to use a “one-down” statement. Compare “Hey, there’s the restaurant. I’m glad we made it” with “Well, would you look at that! I told you it was on Hunter Drive!”
Which of these do you struggle with the most?