4 types of people who take on too much

October 16, 2012

4 types of people who take on too much

Why is it that some people have the tendency to pile too many things on their plate with so much to do and things to feel responsible for? It could be the type of work they do. It could be the expectations of them by their leaders.  It could be the way their personality influences the amount of work that they have.  It could be the way they cope with it or it could be a combination of these factors.

4 types of people who take on too much

(from “Why are you carrying so much?” by Steve Bagi)

1. The People Pleaser.

Some people have a high need to seek acceptance and love from others. This means that they are pre-occupied with making everyone around them happy. This contributes to an ever-increasing workload as they quickly take on extra tasks and responsibilities so that they don’t let anyone down.

Overall, it is admirable to want to help and serve others. However, if we don’t develop the ability to draw boundaries and say “NO!” (nicely), an increasing workload and the pressure of pleasing others will take a toll.

2. The Ultra Responsible Person.

People with a high degree of responsibility will often take on too much and put too much into their work as they have very high standards.

Often, they will tend to do things themselves rather than delegate, as they feel fully responsible for anything that falls in their work area. Responsible people can also be a work magnet, as more and more people see that they will do the job well and on time and ask them to take on new things.

There is a cost to taking on too much and working too hard for too long. It can lead to stress, fatigue and sometimes burnout as responsible people often pick up the work that others are supposed to be doing.

3. The High Achiever.

Although people with a propensity to strive for constant high performance enjoy working hard, they can also take on too much and set unrealistic targets which can lead to feeling overwhelmed. The harder they push, the more physical and emotional energy they consume which can leave them with an empty tank. The human body is not made to work without adequate rest and recharging.

4. People who struggle with anxiety.

Each of us will respond to pressure in different ways. For some, even the smallest of stresses can result in feelings of being overwhelmed. Generally anxious people will find work pressures more intense.

People pleaser

Some questions to think about:

Are there aspects of your personality that make it difficult for you to:

  • set boundaries and say “No”?
  • delegate work to others?
  • cope with stress in general?

Are you still working when others have all gone home? Why?

Kevin Martineau

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I am the Pastor at Port Hardy Baptist Church on Northern Vancouver Island, British Columbia. I am married to my best friend and I have three beautiful daughters.

7 responses to 4 types of people who take on too much

  1. Call me a hater but I hate the big achievers… they are usually some kind of pain in the ass…

  2. Wow, Kevin, did you hit the nail right on the proverbial head with this one! I immediately thought of a couple of people I know who fall into two of these categories. I think I’ll forward your post to both of them! Thanks!

  3. Hi Kevin,
    All the 4 types of people you mentioned here, I have encountered these traits in many people I know, and I wholly agree with their respective descriptions. I guess I could say that there were times I was either one of these 4 types too. In the end, I get so stressed out and tired that I become sad and bummed out because I didn’t get to reach my target goal at the end of the day in the office. But of course, when we take the time to reflect and take a step back, we learn to do things at a time and not to always rush just to please people and to do everything by ourselves. Been there, done that. It may be a great accomplishment, but it’s not really worth it in the end as it can really take a toll on your health and well being.

  4. Hi Kevin,
    The four types of people you mentioned in post, I have come across people in my life who can be said as epitome of these traits. I respect the individuality of each and every individual and receives them with an open heart. Thanks for the share.