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I don’t like confrontation but I also don’t like the negative consequences of not confronting. This puts me in a dilemma at times.
A helpful motivator for me to change is to know the benefits of changing. This helps motivate me to put the effort into changing. So with this in mind, here are 7 benefits of confrontation.
7 benefits of confrontation:
(from “How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend)
1. Preserving love
It protects the relationship from elements that would harm it.
2. Resolving alienation
It brings disconnected people together.
3. Empowering
It empowers people with the ability to make choices and changes in their relationships.
4. Solving a problem
It helps address and resolve issues that are keeping two people apart or is hurtful to someone.
5. Building growth
Healthy confrontations help people grow emotionally, relationally and spiritually.
6. Clarifying reality
Good confrontations help people to see the other person for who they really are.
7. Avoiding being part of the problem
We a responsibility to confront. As the old saying goes: “If you’re part of the solution, you’re part of the problem
What motivates you to change? How do you deal with confrontation?
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Great insights here, Kevin. Good for all of us to learn from.
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Thanks Scott!
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Great points, Kevin. I’ve had to learn to deal with confrontation. I hated it and it’s been a real grace process of walking out something different. One thing that helped me was thinking of my kids. I love my kids and if they ran into a busy street I would do whatever it took to get their attention. If I really love people, it means having to help and direct when bad decisions are being made. That helped me a lot. Thank you Kevin.
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Great points Jason!
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Hi Kevin,
That’s a short and sweet post with direct message. I like that.
I too thought confrontations can be good in certain situations.
Usually dealing with that would depend on the circumstances, the people and the stakes involved. If the outcome isn’t in my favour, I’m not afraid to walk away, despite them taunting or provoking me to do otherwise.
Yasser
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Thanks for sharing Yasser!
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I deal with confrontation by hiding in a hole most of the time. I don’t like it. I actually rarely find myself in a confrontational situation.
Communication spoken in love is the best way to handle it.
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Thanks for sharing David!
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Thanks so much for sharing the benefits of confrontation. Confrontation, because it is difficult, is often avoided or over-used (exploding as a way to avoid true problem-solving). I love that it empowers, connects, and helps solve problems!
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Great thoughts Steve!
Thanks for sharing!
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