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A dose of inspiration

October 25, 2011 — 9 Comments

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Yesterday, I had the privilege of spending a good chunk of the day with David Mainse, the founder of  100 Huntley Street.  He is on a tour across Canada thanking his supporters.  We had the honour of hosting his visit to Port Hardy at our church.

I have to confess that I didn’t know a lot about David before meeting him yesterday.  I knew about his TV show but that was about it.  I am so glad that I got an opportunity to get to know him better.

David is a man who is passionate about sharing his deep faith in Jesus Christ with others and his desire is to see God relate in a very real way to each individual’s life.  This is what his ministry is all about.  He has dedicated the last 50+ years of his life to sharing the Good News of salvation.

What impressed me most about David is his willingness to change and innovate.  He has not been content to just keep doing the same things in the same way.  Throughout his 50 years of ministry on television he always been on the lookout for new means and new ways to use media and technology to spread the Good News of salvation.

I was greatly inspired yesterday as 75-year-old David Mainse gave me and a group of pastors a passionate talk about using the Internet and other forms of technology to further the Kingdom of God.  Most 75 year old’s don’t even own a computer!

David has been very willing to change with our changing world.  His message has never changed but his methods and means have.

It is so easy to resist change.

It is easy to fear change.

I hope when I am 75 I will have the same willingness and desire to adopt change and to innovate as David Mainse.

Who has inspired you recently?

I have been a pastor now for almost 15 years.  In my years of being a pastor I have had some incredible joyous times and I have had some incredibly difficult times.  I have had moments where I thought I could “conquer” the world and I have had moments of feeling  great defeat and disappointment.  I have had moments where I couldn’t imagine doing anything else and I have had moments wondering if I should continue on as a pastor.

Most Christians turn to their pastor in their difficult moments, in their moments of defeat and disappointment and in their moments of doubt.  But who does the pastor turn to when they are experiencing these feelings?  In most cases, they turn to two sources: God and their spouse.  The God part is a no-brainer but I wonder how many married pastors recognize the importance of their relationship with their spouse? I wonder how many churches recognize the ministry of their pastor’s spouse to their pastor?

Lauren has been a great support to me.
Lauren has been an incredible encourager to me.
Lauren has been my shoulder to “cry” on when I am feeling down and defeated.
Lauren has been my sounding board when it has come to making tough decisions.
Lauren has been the one who has given me “pastoral care” when I needed it the most.

Sadly, I know I can take all these incredible blessings for granted at times.  I can forget that Lauren is carrying a “load” that most wife’s don’t have to.  I think most churches can fall into this trap too.

So here’s my two-fold challenge:

Pastor’s:  Don’t take your spouse’s ministry to you for granted!  Nurture your relationship with them.  Make sure that their needs are being met too. Pray for them.  Go out of your way to do something special for them this week!  Take the time today to tell them that you appreciate them!

Churches: Don’t take your pastor’s spouse for granted!  Support them.  Encourage them.  Pray for them.  Remember that they are carrying a load that most spouses don’t have too.  Don’t put unfair expectations on them.  Do something special for them this week!  

October was pastor’s appreciation month.  Maybe November should be pastor’s spouse appreciation month!

If you are a pastor, what do you do to not take your spouse for granted?  If you are not a pastor, what do you do to not take your pastor’s spouse for granted?


Recommended reading:  Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion

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A weekend getaway with my wonderful wife!!

I am very excited about this. It has been a while since Lauren and I have got away by ourselves. Here’s how God orchestrated it all: Last Sunday morning, I received an e-mail from another pastor stating that I could get some free tickets to a Brian Doerksen concert that was happening in a town about 2.5 hours away from us. My first response was, “Cool but we won’t be able to go because we don’t have anyone to look after our kids.” That afternoon, we had our friends David and Roselyn over and they, somewhat out of the blue (they had mentioned a while back that they wanted to do this but we had never established a time), offered to take our kids for this upcoming weekend! I hadn’t even brought up the possibility of the concert! Then on Tuesday our friend Leanne offered up a free place for us to stay while we are there. I feel so blessed! God is good!

Spending time together alone is a high priority for Lauren and I. We try to get away at least once a year by ourselves (this will be our second time this year:) We recognize that if we don’t make it a priority, it isn’t going to happen. We also set aside one night a week for a “date night.” I believe very strongly that couples need to make spending time together a priority! I believe it is even more important for church leaders to do this because of all the extra pressure that they face. I was challenged by this quote morning and I will challenge you with it too. It is from the book “The Tangible Kingdom“. “Somehow the leaders of the good news have become consistently bad news to their spouses and children.” I don’t want this to be true of me and I trust that you don’t want this to be true of you as well!

What are you doing to avoid being “bad news” to your spouse and children?

The Nines 9/9/9

September 9, 2009 — 2 Comments


If you haven’t heard about THE NINES yet…then listen up. This is an event unlike anything anybody has done.

  • It is specifically FOR church leaders (although anyone can attend).
  • You will hear from hundreds of leaders. But get this…each one will only talk for 9 minutes. That’s it. Forget the lame ice breakers or stories about their childhood–they will get right to it.
  • You don’t have to travel anywhere to participate. Gather as a staff in a conference room or sit at home in your underwear. Your choice.
  • You can watch it all day (recommended!), or you can come and go, tune in and out as your schedule allows.
  • It is totally FREE.

Here is the schedule of some of the speakers for the day (times are in CST):

9AM — Troy Gramling, Mark Beeson, Anne Jackson, Dave Ferguson, Scott Hodge
10AM — Perry Noble, Stacy Spencer
11AM — Dino Rizzo, Nancy Beach, Steven Furtick, Reggie McNeal
12PM — Craig Groeschel, Leonard Sweet, Greg Surratt, Jon Tyson
1PM — Margaret Feinberg, Larry Osborne, Matt Carter, Pete Wilson
2PM — Neil Cole, Reggie Joiner, JD Greear
3PM — Mark Batterson, Dan Kimball, Mark DeYmaz
4PM — Jud Wilhite, Brian McLaren, Bob Roberts, Rick McKinley, John Ortberg
5PM — Alan Hirsch, John Bishop, Toby Slough, Ed Stetzer
6PM — Mark Driscoll, Darrin Patrick, Brad Powell
7PM — Darrin Whitehead, Brian Bloye
8PM — Eric Bryant, Nancy Ortberg, Rick Warren

Click here to watch it now!

Today I am continuing on in the Mad Church Disease group blogging project. Check out Day 1 here, Day 2 here and Day 3 here. My portion of the project is chapter 4 “External Risk Factors.” This chapter looks at the external factors that when not handled properly can send us down the road of burnout. Let me begin by sharing a bit of my story. Just over two years ago I found myself in a place of emotional, physical and spiritual exhaustion. I was a train wreck. As a result, I ended up having to take almost three months off work. I hated that. I felt like a complete failure and loser for not being able to “make it” at “ministry.” Of course, there were many external factors and internal factors that lead to this. Anne presents many of these factors in this chapter and in the previous one. I am not going to dwell on these in this post.

What I want to share briefly about is the last couple of pages that are titled “A Blaze of Glory.” This quote resonated very much with me because it rings so true in my life: “Even through the most difficult circumstances we become able to share to share his story, to share his healing, and to give glory to God, which is what it’s all about anyway” (pg. 89). Two years ago, I desperately needed healing emotionally, physically and spiritually. Thankfully God provided that healing. It was the most painful time of my life BUT because of it I am a more healed person and a more whole person. God has given me a new lease on life and I give Him all the glory for that! I am not sure what my future holds (as none of us do:) but I do know that God won’t waste anything in my life. He will use everything (the good, the bad and the ugly) in my life to bring about His purposes in my life.

I want to conclude with this quote that Anne presents by Oswald Chambers. No matter what circumstances you find yourself in right now, I pray that these words may be an encouragement to you as they were to me : “The circumstances of a saint’s life are ordained by God. In the life of a saint there is no such thing as chance. God by his providence brings you into circumstances that you can’t understand at all, but the Spirit of God understands. God brings you to places, among people, and into certain conditions to accomplish a definite purpose through the intercession of the Spirit in you… Once you have the right relationship with God through salvation and sanctification, remember that whatever your circumstances many be,you have been placed in them by God. And God uses the reaction of your life to your circumstances to fulfill his purposes, as long as you continue to ‘walk in the light as he is in the light’” (1 John 1:7) (pg. 89).

How has God used “the reaction of your life to your circumstances to fulfill his purposes”?

***** The discussion continues tomorrow here.


I have the privilege of participating in another great group blogging project. Last time it was on Seth Godin’s book “Tribes” (you can read my contribution here and check here for other people’s contributions). This time we are doing Anne Jackson’s book “Mad Church Disease.” Here is the schedule of those participating:

Andy Darnell – www.andydarnell.com – Chapter 1 – 6/8

Santos Samayoasantz on the journey – Chapter 2 – 6/9

John Gruberjohngruber 2.0 – Chapter 3 – 6/10

Kevin MartineauShooting the Breeze – Chapter 4 – 6/11

Larry Johnson – Man4God – Chapter 5 – 6/12

Adam Shields – Mr Shields – Chapter 6 – 6/15

Chris Downs – Through the Christ Glass – Chapter 7 – 6/16

Dawn Carter – http://decarter.wordpress.com – Chapter 8 – 6/17

Jenny Wilburn – – Chapter 9 – 6/18

Vikki Huisman – – Ch. 10 – 6/19

Anne Jackson – – Chapter 11 – 6/22

I will update these links daily so that they take you straight to the post. :) Come and join the discussion on this very important topic!

I think I am suffering from a holy hangover today. For those who don’t know what a holy hangover is, it is what some pastor’s feel on Monday mornings:) After expending a lot of emotional and spiritual energy on Sunday a pastor can feel very drained on Monday. This is how I am feeling today. It is hard to describe unless you have experienced it. I just feel absolutely drained today. I have very little energy. Last week was a tough week overall emotionally because of my grandmother’s death and I think I am feeling the effects of that today too. I am thankful that it is a holiday today. I don’t have much planned. I am looking forward to just refreshing and relaxing today.

That being said, I did have a wonderful day yesterday. I am really enjoying the series that I am preaching right now (The church has left the building). God is really challenging me through this series. I am excited about what God is going to continue to do in our community. We also enjoyed some great fellowship with friends yesterday after church and then later at the beach. One of my favourite things to do is going to the beach for a BBQ (mostly because I get to play with fire:) We are truly blessed to live where we do!

How was your Sunday? If you are a pastor, how do you deal with having a holy hangover?