When we were hungry, food appeared by a parent or sibling.
School was just out there – ready for us to plug-in and participate.
Making friends was basically a slam dunk; all we needed was another recess and we returned with an arm load of new buds.
And for the most part, our weight remained stable. We could eat whatever we wanted and yet stay fit and slim. Boy, I miss those days!
Life is not like that anymore!
Somewhere along the line, things moved from automatic to manual, from natural to deliberate and from involuntary to intentional.
We are not told when the switch takes place but if we don’t make the transition, we will always be behind the eight ball.
It happens at different times for different people but it does take place!
The change comes without warning and it happens without our permission.
For example, our marriage, which early on seems to maintain itself, will no longer survive the way it used to be.
I remember when this reality hit me. It was after 13 years of marriage that I realized that I had gone on autopilot and I needed to change that!
I don’t know exactly when the switch took place but it happened. I am learning that a healthy marriage requires intentionality and planned investment.
Other things in life that require intentionality are our relationship with God, our family, our physical health, our ministry, our community and our emotional health.
A “Rule of Life”
This is why we need a plan or a “Rule of Life.” Here is my “rule of life.” I have broken it down into different categories.
- Make Lauren my number one relational investment.
- Find a mentor/coach.
- Focused connecting time with Bethany, Sydney and Mallory from 5-8 pm.
- Be part of a care group that is focused on practicing emotionally healthy skills and practices and being missional.
- Daily office 2-3 times a day.
- Yearly getaway for spiritual growth and refreshment.
- Read a book a month.
- Deepen prayer life.
- Blog 4 times a week.
- Refine and teach spiritual formation practices: belonging, believing, becoming and being.
- Intentional connections with people in and outside the church.
- Delegate and empower ministry leaders.
- Finish unfinished projects around the house.
- Practice financial stewardship.
- Be home more nights than I am out.
- Walk 5-6 times a week.
- Schedule life around breaks instead of breaks around life.
- Find and pursue a hobby.
- Read a book a month at home.
- Weekly Sabbath.
Do you have a plan to live your life with intentionality?
Remember, if you aim for nothing, you get nothing!
Live your life with intentionality!