I have a confession to make: I have a tendency to take on too much by myself. For those who know me best, this is not a shocking revelation. This is something that I continually struggle with. I always seem to find myself in the vicious cycle of taking on too much and then feeling overwhelmed. This is not a good thing on many levels (which I will get to in a bit).
One orchestra. Different instruments. One body. Different parts. If I am a flute player, how strange it would be for me to try and play the tuba part. If I were an eye, how strange it would be for me to try to hear what you are saying. And if I am gifted at creative expression in worship arts, how strange it would be for me to take care of the church’s financial statements.
Here are a couple thoughts to ponder this week:
Since we are all different, are you trying to treat everyone the same? Think chess, not checkers.
If you were gifted with certain skills and abilities, should you stick to tasks that honor those skills and abilities? When would it be appropriate to step outside your gift mix (your comfort zone)?
If there is one body with many parts, why are you trying to take on too many roles?
That last statement hit me like a ton of bricks! It made me stop and think about why I take on too many roles. The answers that I came up with were not pretty. In fact, they were quite humbling.
I recognize that there are few reasons why I try to take on too many roles:
- Procrastination: If I don’t take the time to plan something properly then I am left to do it by myself. I can’t expect anyone to help me if I don’t give them enough time to be involved.
- Validation: At times, I still struggle with finding my identity in what I do. At times, I still feel the that the expectation is that I need to be doing everything (which it is not!)
- Control: I like having things done my way. I like to know how things are going. The best way to accomplish this is by doing them by myself.
I warned you, this is not a pretty picture.
By living this way I am not being a contributing part of the body. I am trying to be the whole body! I am not allowing other people to use their gifts and abilities. I am not allowing the body to function as it should. Also, I am needlessly burning myself out in the process which does nobody good!
This needs to change. No, this is going to change!
I am committing myself to making this change happen.
There are a few ministries at my church that I normally just take on and do and I am going to hand them over to someone else. I am going to allow others to play their part in the body. I am going to empower others to use their gifts and abilities.
How about you? Do you try to take on too much by yourself? How do you combat this?
Recommended reading: Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion