Sometimes life deals us a blow that we can’t cope with on our own. What constitutes such a blow is different for each of us.
It may be a physical or mental illness.
It may be an addiction.
It may be a profound loss.
It may be something that would not disturb most other people but does disturb you.
We don’t have to deal with life’s issues on our own.
We need to find the courage to ask for help.
For many of us, that’s not easy.
For many years, I have struggled with asking for help.
I believed that asking for help was not okay.
I believed that asking for help was shameful.
I believed that asking for help was a sign of weakness.
I believed that asking for help created unnecessary burdens on others.
Recently, someone challenged me in this. They asked me if someone I loved were in the same situation that I found myself in would I think it was okay for them to ask for help?
My answer was a resounding YES!
Then this person said to me: Then why should you be held to a different standard?
These words hit me like a ton of bricks.
I realized that I had higher expectations of myself than I do of others when it comes to dealing with difficult situations and believing this was causing me a lot of unnecessary pain and hurt.
Asking for help may not be easy but it is important.
And when you do ask for help, not everyone will come through for you, and that will be painful.
But many people will.
And by trusting them enough to ask, you offer them an extraordinary opportunity to do something important for someone they care about.
Then one day, you may have the opportunity to return the favour.
Do you struggle with asking others for help?
***** This post was inspired by chapter 6 “Ground Your Identity: Ask Yourself What’s at Stake” from the book “Difficult Conversations”.