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Spending undivided and extended time with your spouse is critical to a healthy marriage. One great way to do this is to get away together a few times a year without the kids.
I understand that having a getaway with your spouse without the kids is not easy. This does not mean it is not possible though.
3 tips to make a getaway with your spouse possible
1. Plan for it.
For us, we usually try to book our getaways months in advance (sometimes even a year in advance). This helps us in finding someone (usually my wonderful parents) to look after our kids. This also allows adequate time to book the time off.
2. Budget for it.
When you are making your yearly budget put money aside for at least one getaway as a couple. Your getaway doesn’t have to be extravagant.
Some of our getaways have been as simple as going to a work related conference together. This way most of the expenses are covered and we can plan something fun to do in our spare time.
3. Do it.
It is great to plan for a getaway with your spouse and budget for it but these mean nothing if you don’t actually do it! Make it a priority! You won’t regret it! I know we haven’t. Doing this has help make our marriage stronger and healthier.
Do you plan a yearly getaway with your spouse? How do you make it possible?
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Great ideas!! My husband and I have only been on a getaway together once. For us money is normally the issue. However, I find the same rules apply with date nights. Plan for it, budget it, do it! It is a must!
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These tips definitely apply to date nights too!
Thanks for sharing Jenifer.
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Thanks for these tips Kevin! The timing couldn’t have been better!
I married my husband 4 months after we met and got pregnant one month later. Here we are almost 10 years in
(been a great 10 yrs btw) with no vaca in site! I’m currently married to my hubby and my passion! Between that and the kids, it’s hard to find quality time.
I needed this post badly, lol!! Thanks so much, will start planning!
-Ro
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Hi Roshanda:
The truth is that life will always be busy in some way and that is why we need make time away with our spouse a priority. It is definitely worth it!
Kevin
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We don’t have kids, but if we want to get away from the home hussle/bustle, we’ll plan on taking a weekend trip somewhere we can drive to. We’re new to the Pac NW, so there are still lots of things for us to see.
Sometimes that little two day breather away from home means that you aren’t doing home chores on your days off.
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Great point Don! It is definitely nice to get away from the day to day chores of life from time to time.
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Great advice Kevin – it’s such a nice break to get away from the day to day grind (even when you enjoy the grind) and spend focused time together. Thanks for the tips!
It definitely is!
Thanks Marty!
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Great advice. This is something my wife and I have been struggling with. Our biggest hurdle has been childcare lately. It is so amazing that you would remind us to take a moment and spend time together.
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Child care is definitely a big issue for parents in getting away. My parents live 6 hours away and are willing to once a year to look after our kids for a week or so. This is a huge blessing. Also, we have some friends where we live who are willing to take our kids for a weekend from time to time.
Try asking someone you know even if it’s only for 1 night to start off with.
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Its really hard to plan that kind of trip specially if the kids are still small. but that is perfect to retain a happy marriage and relationship with your partner.
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That’s true Julie. We waited until our oldest daughter was almost 6 before we went anywhere by ourselves. But with our other daughters we waited only until they were around 2.
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Hi Kevin,
I don’t think I’ve ever been on holiday as such because I lived and travelled on my yacht for 12 years and was pretty much always in a holiday destination.
My Auntie goes on holiday twice a year and is always saving up to go away with her husband… it means so much to them and they have such an amazing time together that I can really see how important this quality time is.
I definitely recommend that people follow your 3 steps, especially the last one!!! DO IT!
All the best,
Emma
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Hi Emma:
Living on a yacht sounds fantastic.
It is still good to get away from our normal routine from time to time to refresh and rejuvenate.
Kevin
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I agree with Julie, that was not really easy to plan a trip if our kids are still small because you cant enjoy your trip by always taking your kids. For me I will plan a trip if my kids are in age of 5.
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Very true! During those times when our kids are young and we can’t get away for a bit we need to prioritize having a weekly date night with our spouse. These are always possible with a little creativity.
Thanks for sharing Fatima!
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And that’s true Kevin I love to see your reply in my comment, and I agree with you too. date is very important in relationship you can expand your self with each other.. thanks kevs godbless.
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