One of the primary problems of people in our world today is our false belief that we don’t need anyone. We want to be seen as strong. We want to be seen as not requesting or requiring any help from another person.
We falsely believe that we can do life 100% on our own.
I think those of us who are leaders or parents or those who serve as helpers and influencers are especially prone to this false belief since many people depend on us. We feel the pressure (mostly from ourselves) that we need to keep all our problems to ourselves and to not let down other people.
There is some truth to this pressure. Leaders need to keep things in place in order to inspire and guide others but at the same time everyone needs to need others! We are built to need others.
Giving up self-sufficiency is very difficult but it is necessary for our ongoing growth.
Sometimes it takes an encounter with a financial, business, career or relational tsunami to force us to let people in. That’s what it took for me! My crisis was a forced medical leave due to stress.
I didn’t want the crisis to happen but the benefit of letting go of my self-sufficiency made much of it worthwhile. I have grown in so many ways and I am thankful for that.
Do you need to give up self-sufficiency?
***** This post was inspired by Dr. John Townsend’s book “Where Is God?: Finding His Presence, Purpose and Power in Difficult Times”