“Don’t try to fix it. I just need you to listen.” Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what.
For anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship, I’m sure you’ve heard the following before. It’s just presented in an overly exaggerated way that we can all laugh at and enjoy. This short film is called “It’s Not About the Nail”. It was directed by Jason Headley, and it’s hilarious. Enjoy the show!
It’s not about the nail
A great principle in “It’s not about the nail”
Even though this is a hilarious video there is still a principle that needs to be heeded here. The principle is simple. It is:
David Augsburger said:
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”
Listening is so critical to healthy relationships yet it is probably one of the most neglected aspects of life. Perhaps some of us have a hard time listening because we feel uncomfortable. When we are feeling this way we kid around or we dole out whatever advice we can think of without really thinking about the other person.
If we don’t know how to respond, we need to accept it. Our presence, staying with people is what is critical. We don‘t have to know what to say for every circumstance. Advice is more than likely not what most people want anyhow. People want to know that they’re not alone.
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best), how would you rate yourself as a listener?