What is your love language?

February 12, 2013

love language

Discovering your love language is critical to having healthy relationships. Our love language is simply how we give and receive love.

Unfortunately, seldom do two people in a relationship have the same primary love language. We tend to speak our primary love language and become confused when our partner doesn’t understand what we’re communicating.

Once you identify and learn to speak your partner’s primary love language, you’ll have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving relationship.

Take the love language quiz

My primary love language

Here were the results of my test:

5 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
0 Receiving Gifts
5 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch

As you can see, my two primary love languages are: quality time and physical touch.  Here is a brief description of both:

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.

Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

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What is your primary love language?

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Kevin Martineau

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I am the Pastor at Port Hardy Baptist Church on Northern Vancouver Island, British Columbia. I am married to my best friend and I have three beautiful daughters.

6 responses to What is your love language?

  1. HI Kevin, is this test supposed to work right here on your blog? I did have to go to the website to take the test Here are my results
    5Words of Affirmation
    9Quality Time
    0Receiving Gifts
    8Acts of Service
    8Physical Touch

    This was a pretty cool exercise Thanks for sharing. Chery :)

    • Hi Chery:

      The test is supposed to work here. Did the widget show up for you?

      Thanks for sharing your results. It is so cool to see how each and every one of us is so unique!

      Kevin

  2. Hi Kevin

    My primary love language:
    8 Words of Affirmation
    10 Quality Time
    2 Receiving Gifts
    6 Acts of Service
    9 Physical Touch

  3. Haven’t taken a quiz like this in years. I’m excited to give it a shot!