4.5 years ago I had the opportunity to go to New York on my own. It was an incredible experience! During my time in New York, I overcame a huge fear in my life – the fear of getting lost. I was very anxious about getting lost before I left and then it happened (maybe a self-fulfilling prophesy?)
I must admit that I did panic a bit when I realized that I was lost but I didn’t allow that feeling of panic to stop me from taking action and finding my way.
In the past this hasn’t always been the case for me. I have allowed fear to dictate a lot of things in my life.
3 areas in which fear has hindered me
1. In my marriage.
I have allowed fear to hinder my marriage. For many years of my marriage I allowed fear to hinder and stop me from being open and transparent with Lauren. The specific fears were: the fear of rejection, the fear of conflict and the fear of hurting her.
2. In my relationships with others.
I have also allowed fear to hinder and stop me from being open and transparent with others. For many years I allowed fear to stop me from sharing personal struggles and hurts with other people.
The number one fear here was again the fear of rejection. I truly believed that if people knew the personal struggles and hurts that I was experiencing that they would reject me. This fear has been tougher for me to overcome but I know that I am making progress.
3. In stepping out in faith.
I have also allowed fear to hinder me from stepping out in faith. There have been many times in my life where I have felt compelled to do something but haven’t due to the fear of the unknown. The unknown is very scary. The unknown means that I have to completely trust God.
This is tough when you have tried to control and manage your life so much that you do not find yourself in the unknown. I don’t think anyone likes the unknown but it is the most freeing place to be because it means that you are completely in God’s hands.
I find myself in this “territory” in many areas of my life right now and there is still a certain amount of fear but there is a new sense of peace and confidence as well.
Overcoming our fears
A good friend of mine gave me this acronym for fear – False Expectations Appearing Real. None of my fears are grounded in reality. They are founded on false expectations and faulty thinking. Realizing this has helped me to begin to overcome my fears.
What fears do you need to overcome?