The above statement was the theme of the Emotionally Healthy Leadership conference that Lauren and I attended on Tuesday. This is a very powerful statement with huge implications!
This statement is saying that the pastor’s marriage is core to change and transformation in the church.
This statement is saying that if the pastor’s marriage is not healthy they will not be able to lead a church to health.
This statement is saying that the pastor must make investing in their marriage their number one priority next to their relationship to God.
“If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” 1 Timothy 3:5
Here is a wrap up of the day by Pete Scazzero:
What we are committed to do to make our marriage a priority:
1. Daily focused connecting time.
We usually do this before we go to bed. This is something that we are continuing to grow in. I am learning to be much more transparent with Lauren about where I am at. This is a time for us to catch up on what is happening, work through any issues that may have arisen during the day and to pray together.
This is usually Thursday nights for us. We commit to making this night just about us. We may watch a movie, play games or just chat. We realize that we have slipped in this area over the last while and we are going to remedy that.
This takes planning and work. These times are incredibly valuable for our relationship. We have to make these getaways a priority or they won’t happen.
This is the toughest one as it is the hardest. I know that I need to continue to grow in the area of speaking directly, clearly, honestly and respectfully with Lauren. We have learned a lot of good skills to help us grow deeper in our relationship – we just need to apply them!
What are your thoughts on the statement “As goes the pastor’s marriage so goes the church”? What are you doing to make your marriage a priority?