Criticism reveals itself in our lives in many different ways (i.e. jealousy, negativity, sarcasm) and whether we recognize it or not – our words have great power. It’s really important that we get this. We are deceiving ourselves if we think that our words of criticism are not damaging and hurting people. We need to learn to speak words of life instead of words of criticism.
3 ways to speak words of life instead of words of criticism
1. Rejoice with people instead of being jealous of them.
Don’t take chips at people anymore. Don’t dig away at them. Instead rejoice with them. When something good is happening to somebody get behind them and be excited. If your friend pulls up in a new car, don’t be looking for something wrong with it. Instead be excited for them.
Here’s how you know if you’ve got jealousy rooted out of you. Ask yourself this question, “Am I truly happy for the good things others experience?” When other people – your spouse, your brothers, your sisters, your friends, people at work – when other people are experiencing good things, are you genuinely, truly happy for them?
2. Be a cheerleader instead of being negative.
It’s time to quit being a downer and start being a cheerleader. Start cheering people on. Be excited for them. So, here’s the question: Who are you going to cheer on today? Who are you going to be a cheerleader for? Think about it.
Start at home. Start with your kids. Start with your spouse. Then, look at the people you work with every single day. Begin cheering them on, especially people who are going through tough times. Don’t point out all the reasons they’re going through the tough times and don’t try to fix them. Just get behind them and be an inspiration to them.
3. Speak words of encouragement instead of words of sarcasm.
Start encouraging people. Start building people up instead of chipping away at them. If you are married speak words of blessing to your spouse. Encourage them. Talk about all of the things that you love about them. Praise them publicly. Praise them privately.
In the lives of your children instead of always policing them with words like: “Stop that. Come over here. Quit doing this. Don’t hit your brother. Don’t hit your sister.” And on and on and on and on. Instead, catch them doing good things. Say things like: “You did awesome. You cleaned up your room without being asked. Way to go! You brought over your dishes. You’re amazing.” Encourage them with words of life rather than always criticizing what they didn’t do right.
What are some more ways that we can speak words of life instead of words of criticism?