- By Kevin Martineau
- July 9, 2015
- Comments Off on T.H.I.N.K. before you share on social media
Has social media ruined politeness and respect? Let me be more specific. Has our ability to instantly respond to issues that we see reported on social media given rise to hot-headed thoughts, comments or attitudes? I would answer with a resounding “Yes!” All you have to do is read the reader comments to articles on in any given newspaper, on any given day, on almost any topic. This applies to Facebook, Twitter and other social media platforms too.
I just don’t get why readers who respond to articles have to demonize people with whom they disagree. What bothers me is the rage that is spread and the assumptions that are made. You may know about the “theory of attribution” where we tend to ascribe the worst possible motives to others who may have offended us while diminishing any role we may have played. In this theory we don’t give others the benefit of the doubt that we may allow ourselves. We all have a part in this. We could all use a little more ‘THINK-ing’ before we shared on social media!
T.H.I.N.K. before you share on social media
T – Is it true?
A lot of times when we are frustrated or angry at something that has happened we will say things that are not true. We jump to conclusions and make assumptions (and we all know what happens when we make assumptions). We need to make sure that we have all the facts before we chime in with our opinions!
H – Is it helpful?
We can choose to speak words of death or words of life. The choice is ours. Words of death are self-focused. They hurt people. They damage relationships. They are malicious and mean-spirited. Words of life, on the other hand, nourish – that is, they help people grow. They heal those who are hurting. They can pull people back away from the path that leads to death.
I – Is it inspiring?
Will your words build up someone? Will they cause someone to be inspired or create an inspirational atmosphere? A prudent person does not need to tell all they know. They have quiet confidence. An insecure person has something to prove and will eagerly try to prove him or herself by telling all they know. While people do not notice a quiet humble person right away, they will respect them later.
N – Is it necessary?
We need to decide whether or not what we are saying is really necessary to say at that time. Again, when we are frustrated when end up saying a lot of things that are not necessary or relevant to the situation. We need to only speak words that are relevant to the situation at hand.
K – Is it kind?
Are your words based on a desire to help? Someone has said that great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds discuss people.
You might be thinking, “If I applied the T.H.I.N.K. acronym before I shared on social media I would hardly share at all!” Ah! Perhaps that’s not such a bad idea!
What do you think? Has social media ruined politeness and respect?