Why should we show kindness?

April 3, 2013 — 24 Comments


Kindness is an attitude which manifests itself in actions (or kind deeds). Kindness means that we care for the feelings of others and feel with them. Kindness gets right into the situation with the person. Kindness suffers with those who suffer, struggles with those who struggle and works with those who work.

Kindness is not an attitude or an emotion. We do not think of people as being kind simply because they do not hurt anybody. We regard people as being kind if they go out of their way, with no public recognition, to perform deeds of kindness. Kindness is love in action.

3 reasons why we should show kindness to others

1. It is a command of God.

Colossians 3:12 says “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Jesus commands us to love our neighbours. Love for others is not an emotion or a feeling, it is a choice. We choose to love others and show kindness to others because God tells us to.

2. The character of God.

God tells us to show kindness to others because that is part of His wonderful character. He is full of loving kindness toward us. God has forgiven us not because we deserved it– He forgives us for Jesus’ sake. God didn’t just tell us He loves us, He proved it. Romans 5:8 says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” It’s not enough for us to say we love others; we must show it.

We don’t perform acts of kindness to earn God’s mercy and forgiveness; we perform good deeds because we have been forgiven. When God saved us, He began to change us. We no longer want to live like we did before we knew God. When we show kindness to a stranger, they are surprised. Why? Because that’s not normal behaviour. Out there, it is every man for himself. It’s a dog-eat-dog world. It’s a hard-knock life. But for those of us who know Jesus, we live by a higher standard. We show kindness and compassion to others.

The world tends to give people what they deserve. But God is full of grace and mercy. Grace is God blessing us with that which we do not deserve. Mercy is God withholding the punishment we do deserve. The more we understand and appreciate God’s grace and mercy toward us, the more we will want to show kindness to others.

3. It is one of the most effective tools in reaching people with the good news that God loves them.

When we don’t demonstrate Godly kindness in our lives, the result is that people are turned off to the gospel before they even hear God’s message. What was it that attracted sinners to Jesus? It was His loving kindness toward them that made them want to be around Him.

It’s the same for us today. We are not to separate love from kindness. If we love people as we are so frequently commanded to in scripture, we must treat them with kindness. To do less than that communicates that we don’t love them as we should. In fact, think about this for a moment. If we don’t treat people with kindness, most of them won’t even give the gospel a chance!


Most people will never be Bible scholars in the true sense of the word, but Bible knowledge alone doesn’t make a person effective in sharing their faith. As Faber pointed out, kindness earns a hearing for the gospel like nothing else can.

A challenge

Here is my challenge to you today: I want to challenge you to be actively looking for ways to show kindness in Christ’s name to those around you. The ways are only limited by your creativity. Just remember that when you do your acts of kindness, make sure that you tell the person you are being kind to, that you are doing this because you want to demonstrate God’s love and kindness to them – so that all the glory goes to God and not you!


How can you show kindness to someone today?

Kevin Martineau

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I am the Pastor at Port Hardy Baptist Church on Northern Vancouver Island, British Columbia. I am married to my best friend and I have three beautiful daughters.

24 responses to Why should we show kindness?

  1. Your reasons are all true.
    I'm sorry if this sounds selfish, but I can think of one more tiny little reason. We ourselves are often changed by it. I know I often learn more when I open myself up to someone else, and kindness often is that…

  2. "Kindness is love in action." And love in action has not thought of repayment or condition or quid pro quo. It just is.

    Good post, Kevin.

  3. Glynn, that is an amazing quote, and really makes you think about how much you really love other people, because it should be displayed in actions if you really do!
    My recent post The Aweber Code….And Why You Need To Promote It!

  4. Thanks for sharing Helen! I agree, that when we offer kindness that it changes us too.
    My recent post Why should we show kindness?

  5. Thanks Glynn!

    "And love in action has no thought of repayment or condition or quid pro quo. It just is.: AMEN!!
    My recent post Why should we show kindness?

  6. Thanks for stopping by and sharing Tom!
    My recent post Why should we show kindness?

  7. and it is the way God that calls us to change … which speaks to your quote by Faber

  8. Great point Susan. Thanks for stopping by and sharing!
    My recent post Why should we show kindness?

  9. Kevin,
    Faber's quote was perfect…I needed to hear that today…funny how that works.

  10. Kindness is reflected back in the face of its recipient. And as St. Francis wrote, "A kind face is a precious gift."
    My recent post Show Me What Kindness Looks Like (Poem)

  11. Great points (as usual). I really appreciated the reasons in #2 (The Character of God)… thanks, Kevin.

  12. Amelia Earhart:
    No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.

  13. #3 is the key–kindness is a magnet. Better than words or doctrine or programs. Kindness makes people want to come in and see what's going on.

  14. #4 We need to follow God's example – We have received so much undeserved kindness from God that we need to follow his example and show kindness even when we don't feel like it.

  15. God works in mysterious ways!

    Thanks for stopping by and sharing Jeff!

  16. Great quote Maureen! Thanks for sharing it!

  17. Great quote nAncY! Thanks for sharing it!

  18. Yes, it does indeed! Thanks for stopping by and sharing Rich!

  19. Amen! Thanks for sharing Rick!

  20. Indeed. Kindness is so rare thing right now. You know just now on Lifehacker i read an article about alpinists who passed the person who was getting frozen on their way and they just ignored him, he died. and that was not the first time… How come? You know I hearв somewhere that a kind person will feel guilty even for a dog!

  21. I do believe that kindness and altruism are the language of God. Giving and helping others is one of the most beautiful things on this earth. Practicing this everyday will make your life full of joy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Cheers!

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